Is Your Dog Pup-Blocking You?
Q: Casey’s sex life has gone downhill because of doggie separation anxiety. She says her new dog won’t let her and her boyfriend have sex. He (the dog, not the boyfriend) is constantly whining whenever they lock him out of the room. But, if they allow him in, he jumps on them and won’t leave them alone. They got the dog together and feel like they’re failing as a couple. Dr. Cooper to the rescue!
A: You’re in luck, Casey, because my boyfriend is a dog behaviorist and deals with this kind of thing all the time. I told him your story and he says the problem is that you guys have no control over your dog. By adopting a dog and not giving it boundaries that it can’t be out of the room without you for a second and is ruing your sex life is on you, not the dog. You created this problem, this problem did not happen to you, which means you can fix it.
LEARN THE ROPES
You need to learn how to be proper dog owners. It’s going to be a process to end the dog’s separation anxiety. You MUST get a dog behavioral trainer but then you have to listen to the solution. Take the steps to enact the solution. The biggest issue trainers have with clients is that they give them all the tools they need, but they ignore the advice and then call later saying nothing has changed. You have to stick to the training. It’s all about being consistent.
THE FIRST STEP
Trainers would tell you to walk the heck out of that dog. No dog runs. Dogs- when they walk -is not about just getting them out of the house, it’s about tiring their minds and you can only do that with a walk, not with a dog run. They need to explore and sniff and learn and smell. That gets them tired. A dog run makes them physically tired, but it does nothing for anxiety because it does nothing for them mentally. Also, it is in the walk, the two or three of you together that the dog sees you are in charge, not him. Dogs need rules and they need boundaries.
YOU ARE IN CHARGE, NOT YOUR DOG
You can watch videos on youtube, hire a trainer, but you need to be consistent in giving the dog structure and order and once it has that it does not try to control people with barking and howling and you can have all the sex you want. You guys are new dog owners and you have to learn how to handle having a dog. It is completely doable. You just need to be consistent and train that dog. But the bottom line is that you are in charge, not him, so step up and stop being bullied by your dog, and get your sex life back on track
