BDSM 101: How Two Submissives Make The “D” Work
Q: Madison called The Cooper and Anthony Show to ask Dr. Cooper a question. She is sexually submissive, but is attracted to other submissives. In a BDSM relationship, how do two subs make it work?
A: One way is for both partners to learn how to play the dominant role in order to satisfy the other partner and can switch off accordingly. Also, there are plenty of BDSM groups that have meetups and there are usually Doms on hand who would be more than happy to engage with both you together or separately. Provided you don’t need to role play 24/7, this could satisfy both your needs.
Explore Other Kink
You can also explore other kinks and other fantasies that go beyond dom/sub. It’s not the only thing on the menu, if you like to explore kink. There is role play, exhibitionism, foot fetish, nylon fetish, edging, wax…you see my point.
Negotiate, Negotiate, Negotiate!
For two submissives to make it work, effective communication, trust, and respect are crucial.
Negotiation: Both submissives need to have an open and honest conversation about their desires, limits, boundaries, and what they hope to get from the relationship or scene. This negotiation process is essential to ensure that everyone’s needs and expectations are met.
Roles and Responsibilities
While both participants identify as submissives, they might have specific preferences or roles within the dynamic. It could involve taking turns being the submissive or exploring different aspects of submission with each other. Open and ongoing communication is vital in any BDSM relationship, but especially when two submissives are involved. They need to communicate about their feelings, needs, and concerns regularly.
Exploration and Experimentation
As with any BDSM relationship, exploring new activities or scenes together can help keep the dynamic fresh and exciting. They can take turns trying out different roles or activities that cater to each other’s interests. This also includes Emotional Support: BDSM dynamics can be intense, and participants might experience a range of emotions. Providing emotional support to each other is essential for building trust and fostering a healthy relationship. Giving each other space outside of the BDSM dynamic is essential to maintain individuality and personal growth. It’s crucial to balance BDSM play with regular life activities and interests.
Respecting Limits
Even though both individuals are submissive, they will likely have different limits and boundaries. Respecting and honoring each other’s limits is crucial to maintaining a healthy and consensual dynamic.
Remember that BDSM dynamics are highly individualized and can take many forms. What works for one pair of submissives might not work for another, so it’s essential to customize the dynamic to meet the needs and desires of all participants involved.
