Why Don’t Adults Give Hickeys Anymore?
Q: Lorraine and her friend are high school teachers and were noticing teens with hickeys but realized its a behavior that seems to stop by 18-19. They asked Dr. Cooper, why does it stop? And is there a hickey kink community?
A: The reason hickeys stop once you become sexually mature is because hickeys are a result of kissing, harder, not better, and once you get older, you realize that kissing softer and more passionately is actually more desirable but when you’re first kissing, you don’t know your own strength so to speak.
Hickeys are also because, teenagers are marking each other like this is mine stay away and as we get older, we don’t feel the need to do that anymore. Our bonds are more intimate and more emotional and we don’t need to tell other girls or other boys “stay away “
As far as hickeys being a fetish… Of course, nearly anything can be a fetish. But the reason why hickeys are a fetish for adults is different from why hickeys are given as teenagers. For adults, it’s part of the pleasure pain thing and it’s given as a light version of pain, people who, like biting that kind of thing, as opposed to a teenager who is just kissing too hard, or trying to mark their territory.
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There are several reasons why adults tend to refrain from giving hickeys, those passionate marks left on the skin as a result of intense sucking or biting. Firstly, adults generally prioritize discretion and professionalism in their personal and social lives. Hickeys are often associated with youthful exuberance and impulsive behavior, which may be viewed as inappropriate or unprofessional in many adult contexts, such as the workplace or formal gatherings.
Secondly, adults have typically developed a greater sense of boundaries and respect for personal space. Hickeys are seen as an intimate act that leaves visible marks on the body, and adults tend to value consent and communication in their relationships. Giving a hickey without explicit consent can be seen as invasive and disrespectful, potentially violating the boundaries of the other person.
Furthermore, as individuals mature, they often become more conscious of their physical appearance and the potential consequences of their actions. Hickeys can be difficult to conceal, and adults may not want to deal with the awkwardness or potential judgment that may arise from visible marks on their neck or other exposed areas.
Overall, the decision of whether or not to give hickeys is a personal one, but as adults navigate their professional and personal lives, they often prioritize discretion, respect, and maintaining a certain level of professionalism, leading them to avoid engaging in such visible displays of affection.
